6 Healthy Ways To Letting Go Of Your Ex “Toxic Tony” & Finally Breathing Again
6 Healthy Ways To Letting Go Of Your Ex Toxic Tony
& Finally Breathing Again
No More Toxic Tony!
POSTED OCT 10, 2022 UPDATED SEP 03, 2023
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Ooh sis, did you get wrapped right up in that TOXIC TONY energy? Somehow that eggplant got you “dickmotized”, now you’re wondering how the hell you’re going to save yourself.
Chile!! Toxic Tony played them cards right in the beginning stages, now they’re showing them true dingy colors and you’re all in your feels. Finally realizing this shit toxic & draining af, but you Looove them!
NO MA’AM!!! Your yoni has been telling you for a while to leave them alone and really focus on your womb healing, but you still ain’t fully cleanse from that last relationship with “Petty Paul” now Mr. Toxic 2.0 got you hooked! I’m not judging you sis, because girl I’ve been there about “50 11 times” and it was a journey to heal from.
Definitely worth it though!
Healing after a breakup can be difficult in its own way, especially if your ex was a narcissist, gaslighter, or even just a plain out negative person. Releasing yourself from the shackles of that “thangy thangy” whatever gender they are. Will do some help versus holding that toxic energy in your womb and creating more possible womb trauma.
And we don’t need that Sis!
So let's get into some Healthy Ways to Letting Go of your Ex “Toxic Tony”:
Removing unnecessary memorabilia of past toxic relationships can be one of the easier ways to start your new journey of healing and moving forward. Yes, sis I’m talking about those dingy boxers, oversized tee-shirts, blankets, even items you know d**n well you will never use, like, old textbooks that are nowhere near to your major! Sorry that was me, but I digress!
I know they might be “comfortable”, but let's be real. Do you really need them or is it the relationship that you’re still holding comfort to? I always say “If you keep their unnecessary materials around, that energy is still there causing blockages in your womb space and you probably haven’t moved all the way on.” Sometimes those bedroom toys or special lingerie pieces have to go too Sis! YEA I SAID IT! Well at least cleanse them dang 🙄!!!
Decluttering your space is a start that doesn’t have to be rushed because we all know healing takes time, but at least put them in a box, girl.
Now of course there are certain items or things that can not be removed like kids (please go to a therapist if you & your BM/BD are not together and it is hard to co-parent), but that old tee-shirt you’ve been sleeping in every other night. CAN GO!
So go get them nasty draws/ballers, I know you still got balled up somewhere and throw them away!
Breaking up with someone you once loved can be difficult, but sometimes it's necessary for our own well-being. When a relationship becomes toxic, it can have a lasting impact that goes beyond just the time we spent with that person. It can leave us feeling drained emotionally and spiritually, with a lingering connection that can take time to cut away - these connections are often referred to as "soul ties."
If you are still in contact with your ex-partner, it may be helpful to create some distance between you both. This may mean blocking them on social media or avoiding places where you know they'll be present until you have rebuilt your inner strength and possible bitterness. Because Sis you don’t want to be that woman when you see your ex, and it creates a negative response in your body, then you go the mental/emotional rabbit hole of anger or sadness. That’ll only keep you in bondage to them.
Learn your triggers, reprogram them, and HEAL.
Ooh this is a fun way to letting go of your toxic ex!
Finding a new hobby that awakens your soul.
Begin looking for different hobbies that you either always wanted to do or something safe, but takes you out of your comfort zone. Some activities can be creating art, rollerblading, learning how to code or even taking a class on pottery. Whatever tickles your inner girl power, but just start right now.
This is a great way to refocus your mind and emotions into positive things. At times breakups are painful & messy; leaving your well-being off course, but utilizing that breakup energy for something that makes you smile; can be healing within itself. In one of my past toxic relationships I stopped doing a lot of hobbies that I truly enjoyed, for instance, painting.
Before allowing myself to drop into those dark moments of my life. I use to love to paint, but you know how those karmic relationships can be. They’ll pull your shadows that needs to be healed right on out and you’ll stop entertaining the things that make your light glow until you fully address yourself. Now I’m happily creating all sorts of things.
So what's your new hobby sis? Let me know!
Self-love is the best love!
After a tumultuous breakup back in 2015. I realized my ex at the time never romanced me, nor took me a out on dates. Girlll, it was nothing, but a Netflix & Chill deal. Honestly, I was always sadden by that, time after time of begging him to plan something nice even if it was free. I just wanted to go out, but it was always something!
So you know what your girl did once I dropped him off on the corner and never looked back. I got dressed up! I mean little black dress, cleavage and all and took my cute self out on a date. The next day I did the same-thing and continued to treat myself the way I deserved to be treated; like a Queen and it was so healing!
Take the time out to date yourself and create new self-love activities to engage in, rebuild your confidence, and align with all your needs. Go to that expensive restaurant you’ve been seeing on the gram and spend your money!
Was your last partner what you truly wanted in a mate?
If not, make a manifestation list of all the qualities you want/need in a partner. It can be of whatever you want just make sure that these things are true to your heart, healing, and that you are open to receiving this beautiful union.
Hold on now! I know some of us want that “big d**k/phat yoni energy, lots of money, foine stack of a man or woman”, but let’s be realistic. I mean can you even take the Big D, sometimes it can be too much darling!
Some of us also be wanting a “baller shot caller”, but how are you with securing your own bag! Do you want a partner with a lot of money just for your own ‘hypergamy’ ways? Now ain’t nothing wrong with that, but at least make sure they know your motives.
All I’m saying is write down your ideal partner/manifestation relationship, but be sure it’s 1000% aligned with you in the most sacred healthiest way.
After going through a breakup, many of us may not take the time needed to really sit down and evaluate the past dynamics of our relationships. Understanding the deeper reasons for the connection can be rewarding in your own personal healing.
Learning the lesson of what brought you two together, the journey, and the cause of separation will show you things that you should focus on before getting into another relationship and a sense of self-knowledge.
Girl!!! I learned this technique the hard way after my fourth relationship and probably fifth situationship. Don’t judge me! Spirit and my ancestors came together to slap fire from my a$$ and bring a much needed reckoning.
One day after meditating on my inner problems I decided to write down all the lessons that I learned and needed to learn from each guy I ever allowed inside my “Rose Garden”. Ooooh it took hours, but it was the most self-fulfilling exercise.
It was an epiphanic moment to realize that not only every guy I ever dealt with was a direct reflection of my past non-existing relationship with my father, but also a realization of certain toxic patterns I myself had. It was nothing, but a bunch of “Game of Egos” being played with touches of love.
Here are some key questions to ask yourself to learning the relationship lesson:
What attracted me to my ex? (Green flags vs. Red flags)
Did I allow certain things to transpire that I did not totally agree with? If so, why?
What negative issues did I and my ex bring to the relationship?
Did my ex reflect toxic traits that my dad and/or mom have or had?
What are some positive behaviors, habits, and mindsets I can learn from this past union?
Remember, cutting soul-ties and releasing yourself from a toxic relationship may not be an easy and quick process, but it is important for your own health and well-being. Give yourself time and permission to heal and make the necessary adjustments for a better future YOU.
Let the healing begin!
Lady Yoni
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I'm Lady Yoni. I am the owner and creator of P.Y.E. Fit™ (Phat Yoni Energy fitness™). I am a Women’s Health Coach, Author, Speaker, and girl power Influencer, with a bachelor’s in Biology from Famu. I educate women on how to live healthier by detoxifying their bodies from past womb trauma, let go of toxic yoni habits, and step into their Phat Yoni Energy.
